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Bystanders and Upstanders at the Seat of Scorn

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Once upon a time, a powerful ruler publicly humiliated a simple woman.  He invited her as a guest of honor to an annual celebration, but instead of honoring her, the ruler heaped ire and abuse upon her, attacking her character, honor, and integrity. She helplessly endured it in silence while her friends and colleagues silently watched. No one spoke up or even stood beside her. Her seat of honor at a celebration was instead a seat of scorn.

Those same friends and colleagues privately came to her afterwards and affirmed their love and support for her.  The ruler also visited the woman and apologized very sincerely for his hurtful and unfair behavior and invited her to another celebration. She was not attacked this time, but the previous injustice was ignored, and she left more wounded than ever, because private praise rarely heals public wounds, and neither do secret apologies. Such a broken heart simply festers.

I share this little parable because I am often asked how people can affirm support for their local educators, and I believe it is how we choose to respond when someone sits defenseless in the seat of scorn. Like the simple woman in our parable, local educators often sit alone and humiliated in the public eye, but this is not just happening to school staff. Police officers and healthcare workers have been targeted mercilessly, and likewise, volunteer elected officials like school board members and city council members. Still yet, the seat of scorn is not limited to these leaders or professions. 

Ask the men and women at the drive-thru windows and convenience store counters how often they are cussed or insulted lately.  Ask your bus drivers, your cooks, your custodians, or your school secretaries how people often treat them.  Ask the tellers at the bank, your servers, your pastors.  Ask your friends and family, and ask the person in the mirror, for you probably have felt it, too. Yes, local educators currently feel isolated and humiliated at the seat of scorn, but they are not alone in regard to feeling so alone.

Such treatment is often face-to-face, but nowadays, anyone can be abused publicly by petty tyrants on social media.  Simple folks retreat to social media for a celebration with friends and family, but they quickly find themselves sitting ducks in the virtual seat of scorn. Despite dozens and dozens of “friends” looking on, people rarely stand beside them publicly. An avalanche of support may pour in privately, but private praise and secret apologies never heal public wounds; they just make it worse.

I am often asked what our local educators need, and it is the same thing everyone else needs right now: someone . . . anyone . . . brave enough to stand beside them at the seat of scorn.  Whether online in social media or in line at the store, people should not suffer alone when someone browbeats them for the higher cost of a fountain drink or for simply being a healthcare provider, police officer, or educator. We should never return bad behavior with worse behavior, but we can always walk across the room and stand beside them, so they know they are not alone. I wonder how many times I have personally been guilty of being a bystander.

When schoolkids receive anti-bully training, they learn that being a bystander simply fuels the bad behavior.  As a result, children learn to be upstanders.  Simply standing up with the person often neutralizes the bully, and the person is no longer alone.  Instead of silently watching when someone is humiliated in the seat of scorn, we should be like our children. We should stand beside them, whether online or in person, because private praise and secret apologies afterwards never help.  We all know the hot seat of scorn, so let’s be upstanders rather than bystanders when it happens in our communities. Please pray for restored civility in our communities, the courage to stand with each other, and above all, the safety of our schools this Second Sunday of the Month. 

Tom Deighan is superintendent of Duncan Public Schools. You may email him at  deighantom@gmail.com and read past articles at www.mostlyeducational.com

Oklahoma Hospital Association Presents Awards to Outstanding Leaders; Hosts Annual Meeting

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    Health care professionals from throughout the state attended the Oklahoma Hospital Association’s (OHA’s) 103rd annual convention, Connect 22, Nov. 9-11, at the Oklahoma City Convention Center in Oklahoma City. In addition to the educational sessions and an exhibit hall, other convention highlights included the presentation of several awards to Oklahoma’s outstanding health care leaders.

    During the convention, Jay R. Johnson, FACHE, president and chief executive officer, DRH Health, Duncan, received the association’s highest award, the W. Cleveland Rodgers Distinguished Service Award, in recognition of his outstanding service to the health care industry.

    Johnson received his Bachelor of Business Administration degree in 1990 from Cameron University in Lawton and his Master of Health Administration degree in 1994 from Virginia Commonwealth University in Richmond, Va. He began his career at Parkland Health and Hospital System in Dallas followed by nine years at Stillwater Medical Center and five years at Mercy Hospital Ardmore.

    In August 2010, Jay began serving as president and CEO of Duncan Regional Hospital (DRH). Under his leadership, DRH Health has grown from $96 million in net revenue in 2010 to $169 million in 2021 while also maintaining high levels of patient satisfaction. The organization has expanded by adding Jefferson County Hospital along with clinics in 10 communities in southwest Oklahoma. New services include full-time programs in cardiology, behavioral health, and pulmonology/critical care.

    Johnson currently serves as the past board chair of the Oklahoma Hospital Association. He served as board chair mid-2019 through 2021. He has been a member of the board since 2013 and he has served on the OHA Council on Policy and Legislation. Johnson received the OHA Advocacy in Action award in 2013 and 2017.

    Johnson currently serves as board chair for the Cancer Centers of Southwest Oklahoma. He is the past chair for Vizient’s Arkansas/Oklahoma region and a past delegate of Region Seven for the American Hospital Association’s Regional Policy Board. In 2019, he was named the Duncan Man of the Year by the Duncan Chamber of Commerce, and in 2015 he was named Outstanding Alumni for Cameron University. He is a graduate of Leadership Oklahoma class 29, Leadership Duncan class 16, and Leadership Stillwater class 11. He is the past chair of the Duncan Public Schools Foundation and the past chair of the Duncan Area Economic Development Foundation. He is a fellow of the American College of Healthcare Executives.

    Downtown Again Schedule

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    2021 EVENT INFORMATION – May 15, 2021

    As mentioned above, the focal point of this year’s event will be celebrating  Sorosis Park on the North end of Main Street. There will also be many things to come see, shop, and take part in all up and down Main Street.

    • Downtown Dash 5K & 1  Mile Walk
    • (Registration 8am, 9am Start. All ages welcome)
    • Farmer’s Market Season Opener 8 AM-11:30 AM
    • Cornhole Tournament – 11 AM
    • 3v3 Basketball Tournament – 1 PM (Adult & Youth divisions)
    • Sorosis Park – 5:30 PM
      • Live Music
      • Artist Dr. Palmer Mural Signing
    • Pop-up Dog Park @ The Lawn
    • Food (Taco Truck, Circle D Cafe & more)
    • Crafters & Pop-up shops
    • WVFD Beer Garden (D & MAIN)
    • Inflatable Kid’s Zone
    • Dunk Tank
    • Free Activities
    • Evening Movie (9 PM)

    Round Ryan January 25 2018

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    We’ve made it through yet another week of drastically low temperatures, but on the brighter side, was the weekend. It got up into the 70s on Saturday and Sunday. Now, we are not as cold, but a bit cooler than what we saw this weekend.
    This Saturday is our Ryan food distribution from the food bank starting at 10:00am.
    Brionna and her group from TKRanch made their trip to Dallas and had a really good time.  They made it over to Plano and saw Karen, and to their surprise, Karen’s sister was able to take Karen so she could go to the movies with her dorm mates.  She and the other women from Dorm #3 had even a better time since Karen was able to be a part with them again.   They went to 2 or 3 different places each day, but, one day they went up into Reunion Tower.  I don’t know that I would have cared for that too much myself.   They got back to the ranch on Thursday afternoon.  Then, on Saturday morning, their dorm mother wound up with the flu.  I called to talk to Brionna Sunday evening and Dianna answered the phone.  I knew from her voice she was sick.  She was trying to keep a distance from the women in the dorm.  I hope she if feeling better now.
    When I woke up Saturday morning and turned the television on, the first thing I heard was that we were in a government shutdown.  They announced this morning that our government leaders have come to an agreement and we are okay now until February 8th.
    When I woke up this morning, I learned that there was an earthquake just out from Alaska that registered 7.9. This was over 100 miles out from land that the earthquake occurred. In the northeastern part of our country, they are expecting massive floods.  But, thankfully, all is quite in Ryan.
    This Saturday is Brionna’s birthday.  She is going to be 28 years old.  Happy Birthday, Brionna!  We are planning to go to Wichita Falls with her grandparents and dorm mates and eat at the Red Robin restaurant.
    The flu is beginning to work its’ way back around here.  I have seen many in town that are ill.
    Kim’s news for this week:
    Praise God for the weather and Joe Toddy is better.
    I’ve been riding in the pasture again, in the sunshine and the wind.  Ruffy Tuffy can shake which is nice, I think Foxy has been giving him advice.
    Everyone have a blessed week.  Prayers to good health and for rain.

    Waurika Ranch Rodeo Results

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      Above: Winning Team: Diamond H/Plus C Cattle

      Top Hand: Rodey Wilson of Willson Cattle

      Top Horse: Jayten McCright – Slash W

      2. Bonds

      3. Wilson

      4. Sarco Creek/Lemond

      5. EC Cattle/Mule Creek   (Above Photo by Elizabeth Scott; Photo to right by Elizabeth Scott)

      Photo by Elizabeth Scott

      Citizens Urged to Vote Yes on August 23

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      Jefferson County residents will go to the polls on Tuesday, August 23 for a special run-off election that includes voting on maintaining a one cent sales tax that was originally earmarked for the Jefferson County Hospital.  The Jefferson County Hospital Authority no longer needs those funds, but our county officials want to put those dollars to work for some much needed projects.

      “Keeping the one cent sales tax active will allow us to keep our county government local,” stated Bryce Bohot, Jefferson County Commissioner for District One. “It’s essentially the same idea as keeping our hospital local and keeping those important services available here, we need to ensure that we keep our county services here, too.”

      “It’s important to note that voting yes on the sales tax, does not increase your property taxes.  It only impacts sales tax and it is not an increase from what you are currently paying,” Bohot continued. 

      In order to keep services local, the one cent sales tax would be used for many improvements, including, but not limited to the following areas: 

      • To ensure that necessary repairs can be made to our County Courthouse and Jefferson County Fairgrounds buildings. 

      • To comply with Oklahoma state statutes on paying all elected officials & first deputies out of the county general fund.

      • Bring our County Jail up to state mandated codes.  

      • Increasing the dollars available for improving our county roads.

      • Operating at a level where there is matching funding available for grants to support future projects without additional indebtedness.

      County officials have scheduled a series of Town Meetings for area residents to get their questions answered about the importance of keeping the one cent tax for Jefferson County.  The meeting days and times are:  Addington, Monday, August 8, 6 p.m., Addington Community Center; Hastings, Monday, August 8, 7:30 p.m. Hastings Senior Citizens Center; Terral/Grady, Tuesday, August 9, 6 p.m., Terral Community Center; Ryan/Sugden, Friday, August 12, 6 p.m. Ryan Senior Citizens Center; Ringling, Monday, August 15, 6 p.m. Ringling Community Center; Claypool, Monday, August 15, 7:30 p.m. Claypool Community Center; and Waurika/Sugden, Tuesday, August 16, 6 p.m. Waurika Presbyterian Church, 124 W. Broadway, Waurika. 

      Veterans Day Parade

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      Thank you to everyone who participated in this year’s Veterans Day Parade.

      Here are some of the highlights from the event:

      Sorosis Club Sponsors “Let’s Talk Waurika”. Come hear community leaders March 15th

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      The Sorosis Club of Waurika will hold another “Let’s Talk Waurika” forum at the Waurika Depot on Thursday, March 15th beginning at 6 pm.

      This is a free event and everyone is invited to attend.

      You can expect to hear from members of the School District, Jefferson County Hospital Staff, County Officers, City Manager of the City of Waurika, members of local law enforcement, Waurika Chamber of Commerce, members of the Area Food Bank, State Legislatures, Waurika Development Trust and the Industrial Foundation.

      If you have questions, concerns or even positive ideas for the community this will be the event to attend.

      There will be free refreshments provided.

      Waurika is growing and changes are taking place. come be a part of it.

      Applications deadline March 30 for graduation honor cords

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      All Chickasaw citizens who are seniors in high school are eligible to apply for honor cords to display while graduating.

      Braided in yellow, purple and blue rope, the honor cords feature a medallion displaying the Great Seal of the Chickasaw Nation. The application deadline for these honor cords is March 30.

      Chickasaw seniors may also apply for a one-time reimbursement of graduation expenses.

      Approved high school senior expenses include graduation announcements, caps and gowns, class rings, letterman jackets, and senior pictures. Up to $150 will be reimbursed for costs associated with these purchases.
      For more information, contact Chickasaw Nation Youth Services Division by phone at (580) 310-6620, email at YouthSupportReimbursement@Chickasaw.net or visit 

      Chickasaw.net/Services/Children-Youth/Youth-Support-Reimbursement-Program.

      Woods and Waters June 22 2018

       With the heat indexes running above 100 degrees and increasingly dry and windy weather, sitting in front of the air conditioning is not a bad option. But there are fish to catch and adventures waiting on us!

        This time of year there is not much hunting activity at all. Fishing for the most part is concentrated in the early morning and late evening when the temperatures are more moderate. 

         With last Sunday being Father’s Day, I hope everyone had a chance to celebrate with those closest to you and maybe embark on some new adventure! At least, I hope you had the chance to sit around in the evening and relive those special memories shared with a loved one in our great outdoors. Hopefully mosquito free!

         My brothers and I were so lucky to grow up in rural Jefferson County. Back then you didn’t really think about being in the outdoors because that’s where you spent the majority of your time. You were either working cattle, building fence, killing mesquites, on a tractor or if really unlucky, hauling hay!  When not working you still preferred to be outside riding horses, hanging out on the creek or fishing at the “concrete dam” or your favorite tank.

         Times have changed but the sport of fishing remains very popular and a great way to introduce the little ones to our great outdoors.

      Slade Barnett gets it done!

         If you are lucky enough to venture west to the mountains this time of year and find yourself on a mountain stream casting a fly, you are blessed!

         Waking up to the cool crisp mornings, the smell of pine and pinion trees just add to the experience. 

         If you have a trout fishing trip in your near future, we have a few tips for you that you may have forgotten.

      Memories!

         From Colorado to Maine, Wisconsin to Georgia, all trout behave the same way. How, when, and where they feed is highly predictable. Learning how to catch them on a fly rod, however, goes beyond simply knowing where to find the fish. Listed below are some tips that will get you primed and ready for every aspect of the trout game, from how what to feed them, to how to set the hook.

         Learning to read the water is one of the most important it is probably the most important skill for river anglers the world over. Do you know what a riffle, eddy, tailout, run, and pool is? If not, learn them. Fish utilize these spots for different reasons and move from one to the other at different times of year and times of day. Trout are lazy creatures that utilize rocks, currents, and eddies to hide in ambush and wait for food. Start paying attention to where you saw that last fish rise and why it might have been there. Talk to fellow anglers and ask where they’ve been catching fish. Most important, just sit for a while and watch the water. It’s amazing how much you can learn if you just slow down and pay attention without throwing a line.

         While fish eat everything from snakes to birds and mice, most trout concentrate on aquatic insects, small baitfish, and crustaceans. Do yourself a favor and learn the life cycle of the major insects in the area you are fishing-probably mayflies, caddisflies, midges, and stoneflies. The recently republished book Selective Trout is an excellent resource for this information. Terrestrial (which means land based) insects like beetles, ants, and grasshoppers are also important food sources for trout, especially in late summer and early fall when they tend to be more abundant than many water-born insects.

         Trout are often the first species of fish fly anglers catch, and they learn that setting a hook on them—especially when using a dry fly—requires a quick and smooth lifting of the rod straight up. The problem is that this method doesn’t work when switching to streamers. When working flies underwater, a lift upon the strike will usually cost you the fish. In this scenario, you’ve got to strip set with the rod low and pointed directly at the fish. When the fish hits, just strip one or maybe two more times and the fish should be hooked. After a solid strip set, then you can lift the rod to fight the trout.

      Chris James starts em early!

         Almost everyone is guilty of getting overly excited as soon as you get to the river and wading right in to that first run. The fact is, you probably spooked trout between you and that run. Learn to slow down a little when you hit the river. When you find  a prime piece of water, fish your way to it instead of wading right to it. You’ll be shocked at how many more trout you catch.

         After finding a feeding fish don’t immediately cast to it. It’s tempting, but instead, stay calm, still, and quiet and watch what it’s doing for a moment. Make note of the timing of each rise and drop the fly at the right time. 

          Finally, be respectful to other anglers and don’t crowd someone who might have beaten you to your favorite spot-simply find another! Everyone likes the quiet of the woods and the sounds of the rushing water. Find your spot, be attentive and enjoy matching wits with the local trout!

         Until next week , get outdoors!

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